When Isolation Isn’t a Sign of Brokenness — It Might Be the Birth of Something Beautiful

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes... including you.” — Anne Lamott

We’ve all had those moments — when the world feels too loud, the people around us too many, and the conversations too shallow.
Moments when you crave quiet, distance, solitude.

And yet, in the midst of that craving, your mind whispers something else:
“What’s wrong with you?”

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
And more importantly — you’re not broken.

The Myth of Isolation Equals Dysfunction

For years, I believed something was wrong with me every time I entered that season of “silence.” I pulled away from people, ignored messages, turned down invitations — not out of anger or sadness, but simply because… I didn’t want to be around anyone.

And of course, my mind gave it a label:
“You’re withdrawing. You’re antisocial. You’re failing.”

But over time, I discovered a deeper truth:
That craving for isolation was not a sign of dysfunction — it was a sign of incubation.

It was purpose forming.
It was ideas crystallizing.
It was vision being refined.

The “Birthing Season” — What It Really Looks Like

Consider a pregnant woman about to deliver. In those final moments, she’s often irritable, uninterested in pleasantries, and withdrawn.
She isn’t broken.
She’s birthing.
Her body knows it. Her mind might not fully understand it. But everything inside her is aligning for creation.

This metaphor perfectly illustrates what happens to many of us — especially professionals, leaders, and creatives. We often experience what I call a “Birthing Season”: a phase where we pull back, feel emotionally numb, or creatively exhausted.

But this is not emptiness. It’s fullness preparing to release.

Isolation as a Creative Catalyst: What the Research Says

According to a 2022 study by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, individuals who occasionally seek solitude experience increased creativity, emotional clarity, and decision-making strength.
Another study by Harvard Business Review found that some of the most innovative leaders deliberately schedule solitude — not just as a break, but as a strategic practice to spark new ideas.

In fact, Bill Gates is known for his “Think Weeks” — extended periods of isolation where he reads, reflects, and births game-changing ideas.

What if Your Mind Is Lying to You?

Here's the hard truth:
Our minds often default to fear and familiarity.
So when we step into unfamiliar emotional terrain — like solitude, withdrawal, silence — the mind interprets it as danger.

But not every emotional signal is a red flag. Sometimes, it's a green light to slow down and prepare for what's next.

I once had a season where everything felt dull — my work, my friendships, even my faith. I kept showing up, but deep inside, I felt like I was shutting down.

Looking back, I now know that I was in a birthing season.
I was about to write my first book. Launch a new business. Connect with mentors who would shift the trajectory of my career.

But none of that would’ve happened if I didn’t allow myself to embrace the silence.

Dear Professional, Creative, Leader — Pay Attention to the Signs

Are you suddenly tired of constant meetings and conversations?
Do you feel unusually uninterested in things that once excited you?
Are you craving more alone time, prayer, journaling, or quiet reflection?

That’s not always burnout.
That’s not always depression.
It might just be — purpose, pressing for delivery.

Recognize the Season. Embrace the Process.

Isolation can be:

The womb where creativity forms
The soil where innovation is planted
The temple where divine downloads happen
The boardroom where your next idea for work or business is conceived

"In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion." — Albert Camus

Here’s What You Can Do When You Enter a Birthing Season

Acknowledge it. Say to yourself: “I am not broken. I am birthing.”
Create space. Cancel non-essential engagements and communicate with grace.
Protect your mind. Don’t entertain lies that something is ‘wrong’ with you.
Journal. Pray. Reflect. Track what’s rising within you.
Seek silence, not isolation. Silence allows you to hear yourself — and God — clearly.

You Are Not the Only One

Every leader, artist, innovator, and world-changer has faced this:

Maya Angelou would isolate in hotel rooms for weeks to write.
Steve Jobs famously embraced silence, Zen practices, and long walks alone.
Jesus, before beginning His most powerful work, withdrew to the wilderness.

So why do we shame ourselves for needing solitude when we are about to create something sacred?

Final Word: You’re Not Failing — You’re Forming

Let’s begin to normalize the sacred silence.
Let’s stop labeling every quiet season as a crisis.
And let’s teach our minds to recognize that when we feel most “off,” we might be most aligned.

Give yourself permission to disconnect, breathe, retreat… and deliver.

Do you feel like you’re in a birthing season? Let me know in the comments. And if this helped you, share with someone who may need it.

Remember:
“Words shape worlds. Strategy gives them wings. We deliver the impact.” — Strategic Content 4 Impact

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Mary Ewere - 2025

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